When we were finally able to get into a room by ourselves, we didn’t even need to say anything, we just started making out. He came over and we had a forgettable conversation laden with pregnant pauses, lingering eye contact, and lots of incidental touching. We made heavy eyes at each other the across the room. I was so certain that I didn’t even feel the need to pursue it. I wasn’t sure when or where exactly, but I knew it would happen. The infinite possibilities of the universe collapsed in that moment into a singular inescapable fact: we were going to have sex. His hair was dyed red and he had a scar across the whole right side of his head, which I later found out was from a piece of shrapnel when a motorcycle engine exploded.įrom the moment I saw him, I knew in the marrow of my spine. He was wearing a ‘93 Bulls Michael Jordan T-shirt and green camouflage pants. We were both pretty sloshed on arak cocktails. I met him at a party at a villa in Lahejan, near the Caspian Sea. We would get a hotel room sometimes, but he always insisted on going in separately and besides it got to be way too expensive.Īnd then there was A, my boyfriend. There was P, a 30-year-old waiter who lived with his grandmother.
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We used to meet at the movie theatre and make out in the back row, but it was usually too crowded to attempt anything more serious. There was M, a 26-year-old branding and advertising consultant who lived with his parents and sister. Every relationship I’ve pursued has run into this problem. This is a combination of two factors: the first is that most unmarried Iranian men seem to live with their families, the second is that public spaces are no-go zones for anything above hand-holding. It’s the utter lack of opportunities for any kind of intimate contact with your significant other.
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It’s not the police or the mullahs who are the biggest obstacles to having a successful homosexual relationship in Iran. “It’s the reaction of the people that’s unpredictable, they’re so homophobic.” “It’s not the police I’m worried about,” said another. “You need three people over the age of eighteen to go to court and swear on the Qur’an that they actually saw you having sex.” As he spoke he had his arm around his male friend’s waist. He was wearing women’s shoes, heavy make-up, with a jewelled barrette in his hair and a small black leather purse in the crook of his elbow. “The police can’t do anything,” said one man I met in the park. Police do patrol the park, going about in packs of three and four, but they seem to show little interest in disrupting proceedings. Sometimes a car stops, a conversation ensues through a rolled-down window, someone gets in, and off they will go to perform acts punishable by violent flogging. If you sit on a bench and have a certain look, eventually someone will sit next you and offer a knowing “khaste nabashi” - a common greeting - that depending on your mood and the moonlight can lead anywhere.ĭown Revolution Street, men lean against the shuttered store front of the Institute For The Compilation and Publication of the Works of Imam Khomeini making eyes at passing motorists. Sometimes I don’t even see them until I’m alerted by their giggles. Gay couples recline in remote corners, arms around each other, stealing kisses. They come to trawl the park, to look, to show off, exchanging furtive glances in the dark, occasionally meeting for a few minutes in the public facilities or heading to some third location for more comprehensive interaction. Most nights a well known park near the City Theatre and the university of Tehran becomes a vibrant cruising ground for gay men.
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In recent years small pockets of gay public life have established themselves around the city. They classify it as a mental illness, but at least this is an acknowledgement. The government even offers an exemption from compulsory military service for men who have sex with men. Gay hook-up apps like Grindr, Scruff, and Hornet are easy to access and increasing in popularity. Transgender individuals live and work openly in Tehran, the government will even pay for sex reassignment surgery for those who want it.
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More and more, I see gay and lesbian couples being openly affectionate on the streets. My friends tell me that since President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad - who infamously denied the existence of gay people in Iran - left office, there has been a thaw in official policy towards LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) people. Curiously, “lustful” kissing between two men is punishable by only 60 lashes.ĭespite this draconian statutory prohibition, homosexuality is an open secret. If two men not related by blood are found “under one cover without necessity” they can be given 99 lashes (for some reason the same offence with two women is 100 lashes).